I wanted to write a quick article on a subject I get asked about all the time. How to go from getting the number, to getting a date.

Now the in thing to do is to call or text your new interest up and say something like this "Hey, Becky. I'm going out to a movie on Saturday, you should come along." Now this style has some pro's and some con's to look at. It's good that your coming from a mindset that you believe she's going to say yes, in sales this is called "assuming the sale". People tend to follow, this is especially true when they perceive the leader to be certain. The other part of this approach that is excellent is that your not blowing things out of proportion. There is no reason to make a big deal out of a date, especially early on. Keep the asking casual and keep the date casual... save the more serious stuff for when your more serious about eachother.More...

Alright everyone I know it's been a little while. I have been working day and night to get my latest book released. The book is Facebook Superstar. In this book I teach "sphere of influence game"... I teach you how to build up a big sphere of women (50+), yes I actually teach you how it's done. I noticed that many many dating coaches tell you how great it is to have a big group of female friends because of the rockstar style social proof it brings, but no one seems to tell you how you actually go about building that, so I decided to. Also I go over how to use Facebook to manage, leverage and build up your group even more. I also teach the real reason why spheres of influence can be so powerful... referrals. In this book I go over how I leverage my sphere of influence and get my girls to set me up with around 10 new women a month without me really having to do much of anything.

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Heres the second article in my "Get The Girl" series posted over at one of my other projects www.onlinedatingtips.com.

“It is only at the first encounter that a face makes its full impression on us.” - Arthur Schopenhauer
 
Say, your out some place and you see a woman you would very much like to meet… what do you do? How do you go about making that all important first impression and hopefully strike up a nice conversation? Well in this article we will explore some tips that will help you to increase your chances of just that!

Get The Girl 102- The Approach

First things first... because its the easiest part for me to get to the core of, and because in our male populations eyes and in some females eyes as well it's the first item of importance.... we come to purely physical attraction.

Now when it comes to physical attraction there are 2 predominant schools of thought:

A) Everyone is a 10 aka we are all equal but different
B) No one is a 10 aka we are all different and thus not equal

Now I would say that neither of these schools of thought are incorrect, or correct as they are... simply incomplete. Everyone has differing "tastes" based off of a blend oh biological and social influences on their lives. Hence a girl I consider a "9" or really smokin' hot you may consider to be only marginally attractive and vice versa. (Duh!)

Yeah yeah thats great Dave, but wtf does this have to do with finding that secret key, that elusive why? In a word... everything.
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Pacing is a method used to build wide rappore quickly and also to gain compliance and leadership over the conversation. This technique is not based on the words either of you are speaking... but rather subconcious connection and a 'merging' of energy fields.

There are two primary aspects to pacing, body language and verbal pacing. Body language can be broken down into two equally important parts... positioning and energy. Verbal pacing can be broken down similiarly, into tonality and tempo.

Yeah, yeah thats great Dave, you may be saying to yourself... "but how does all this technical mumbo-jumbo help me?". Easily! We use pacing in two stages (see a pattern here?) Mirroring, and leading.
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Everyone has had approach anxiety (AA) at some point. That little voice in your head, or that feeling in your stomache that you get when your thinking of aproaching a woman. But there is hope... we don't have to stay cursed with this anxiety forever... no we can conquer these feelings.

How do we eliminate AA? Lets first look at the source. Aproach Anxiety stems primarily from a fear of rejection and also from a lack of confience in a given situation. Lets start with the fear of rejection, there are really two ways to deal with this, conditioning or belief system modification. The first will condition you to not be as effected by rejection and is the one we will focus on in this article. The second can be accomplished through the use of NeuroLinguistic Programing (NLP) and will be covered in more depth in another article. Next the lack of confidence in a givin situation, the easiest way to deal with this part is simple and can be summed up by the saying "Experience Breeds Confidence".
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In This article we are going to explore how to talk to women effectively, I am going to share with you a couple of tips derived from Neuro Linguistic Programing (NLP). NLP is a compilation of 3 models for therapy... and really for our purposes can be broken into 2 main parts... Which are basically cognitive concepts and hypnotic concepts... Here I'm going to focus more on the cognitive and less on the hypnotics and give you 3 couple quick types that can ramp up the effectiveness of your communication instantly.

NLP Rule #1: In order for the mind to understand a visual concept it must first visualize the concept. I think its obvious why this can help us, by painting a word picture in your conversations you can in effect control your targets mental movie screen.

NLP Rule #2: If we are told something and dont consciously refute it, then our subconscious accepts it as fact. I like to 'throw and go' using this concept... much like MM suggests you stack negs... For example you throw out a reverse SOI... and then go. EG: your on whatever thread and she ioi's you in a way you particularly liked... say something like "It's so adorable when you try to impress me" and without pausing you resume the thread... without giving her a chance to refute the fact that she's trying to impress you... you've just started conditioning her to believe that she is in fact wanting to impress you... regardless of if she origionally was trying to or not.

NLP Rule #3: The mind does not recognize 'no' or its similiar derivatives. Pretty simple here and a great way to make things your saying less invasive and if you have the right vibe... it can make things plain out flirty fun.


So just using these quick tips you can up your effectiveness in conversations. Have fun.... and whatever you do... DO NOT think about flying pink elephants.