by DavidHart
6. April 2010 15:33
May, 29, 1953-
Today a Edmund Hillary shy unassuming beekeeper from New Zealand stands at the top of the world. As he looks out into the distance from the 29,028 ft summit, it begins to set in. They have done it, they are the first to climb to the peak of Mount Everest. Hillary looks over to the man who he most certainly could not have done it without, his guide a Nepali-Indian Sherpa by the name of Tenzing Norgay and take one of the most famous pictures of the 20th century.
Life changing journeys are almost never completed alone. If we have to make all the mistakes there are to make, all the pitfalls, learn all the lessons ourselves we may not live long enough to finally get to the top of our Everest. This is why having a guide, a mentor is so vitally important.More...
by DavidHart
31. March 2010 13:01
How would you like to be able to recall things long lost in your memory? Languages, things you've read, things you've heard? All of those thing are still in your brain, the difficult part is trying to remember them. What if you could do that easily? What if the same techniques you used to remember things easily could be used to speed up your learning curves on new information as well? There is such a technique and it's called Lucid Dreaming.
A lucid dream is a dream in which the dreamer is aware that they are dreaming. Once someone is consciously aware that they are dreaming it then becomes possible to control the dream... think of it as your all access pass to your own mind. You ever had a dream that was so real you almost couldn't believe it wasn't when you woke up? It's like that, except you can do whatever you want.
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by DavidHart
26. March 2010 18:00
The problem with most "inner game" posts is they are incomplete. They're mostly just people parroting each other. You have the 2 main sides here, the group who try to attain confidence by just thinking it to be so, focusing on it, wanting it... Then you have the other side who thinks that gaining experience is the way... In reality these are both incomplete and both at least partially incorrect.
The process to change is simple:
Decide what you want
Figure out whats currently stopping you from getting it
Build sufficient leverage to spur action (motivation)
Take action
Develop action plan
Condition until permanent (experience)
Now obviously you need to have both schools of thought to truly improve... but here's the kicker... Leaving part of the plan out and it will fail you. Leave out the experience and it will fail you today (you'll never get there), leave out the setup and it will fail you tomorrow (You'll revert to your old ways).
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by DavidHart
26. March 2010 17:57
Alright guys, heres a link to a post on my new project site. It's part of my primer on how to get women, this episode of the series is all about the "nice guy/bad boy paradigm":
New Article: http://onlinedatingtips.com/get-the-girl-101-nice-guys-bad-boys/
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by DavidHart
26. March 2010 17:46
John: Dance?
Diana: I should go.
John: I remember once when I was young, and I was coming back from some place, a movie or something. I was on the subway and there was a girl sitting across from me and she was wearing this dress that was bottoned clear up right to here, she was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. And I was shy then, so when she would look at me I would look away, then afterwards when I would look back she would look away. Then I got to where I was gonna get off, and got off, the doors closed, and as the train was pulling away she looked right at me and gave me the most incredible smile. It was awful, I wanted to tear the doors open. And I went back every night, same time, for two weeks, but she never showed up. That was 30 years ago and I don't think that theres a day that goes by that I don't think about her, I don't want that to happen again. Just one dance?
-Excerpt from the movie "Indecent Proposal"
by DavidHart
26. March 2010 14:07
What is it that truly causes women to be attracted to men? Money, looks, assertiveness, confidence, humor, social proof, sexual prowess, power, prominence, fame? No... it's none of these things, these are symptoms of the true values that are attractive. Is your arm broken because it hurts... or does it hurt because it's broken? The true values that create attraction are the causes, not the symptoms. The true values are being centered, passionate, driven and being able to achieve what you set out to do... being a true closer. Also there is good news... the causes... are easier to develop in yourself then the symptoms are anyway... and as a direct result of enstilling these root values the others, the symptoms, will naturally mature and present themselves.
"Yeah, oh-kay cool Doc... but how do I get started developing these qualities in myself?" You may be wondering now... Well my friend I'm glad you asked. You must discover and then work to become your ideal you.
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by DavidHart
26. March 2010 14:05
Everyone has had approach anxiety (AA) at some point. That little voice in your head, or that feeling in your stomache that you get when your thinking of aproaching a woman. But there is hope... we don't have to stay cursed with this anxiety forever... no we can conquer these feelings.
How do we eliminate AA? Lets first look at the source. Aproach Anxiety stems primarily from a fear of rejection and also from a lack of confience in a given situation. Lets start with the fear of rejection, there are really two ways to deal with this, conditioning or belief system modification. The first will condition you to not be as effected by rejection and is the one we will focus on in this article. The second can be accomplished through the use of NeuroLinguistic Programing (NLP) and will be covered in more depth in another article. Next the lack of confidence in a givin situation, the easiest way to deal with this part is simple and can be summed up by the saying "Experience Breeds Confidence".
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by DavidHart
26. March 2010 13:56
The strongest frame is also one of the easiest to build. The only issue is not really a 'frame' at all... at least not in the way many people use it.
The 'frame' or image you project is a direct result of your perceptions. So change your perceptions change your reality. Gee thanks Dave your probably thinking, way to give some vague and cliche' advice... To you I say don't worry, I'll give a brief primer on how the process of perception and experience work and I'll also give you a couple step you can take to start heading in the direction you want to go.
okay basically there are 3 key things that effect our perceptions and beliefs, they are: Perception, Choice and Experience... now each one of these effects the next. it flows in a loop something like this:
Perception---> Choice<---> Experience
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by DavidHart
24. March 2010 18:35
I have decided to write a step by step guide to building self esteem. It is based in NLP and is comprised of 6 main steps. Designed to make a fast and powerful change and also to get you on the right track for cementing this change permanently in your life.
Before we can start we must realize that the way we act, the way we think, the decisions we make big and small, are all the result of the patterns we have ingrained into our brains. If you want to change your inner game to that of an Alpha you must have the patterns ingrained into your mind that an Alpha has.
Step 1 - Decide whats preventing you from getting what you want
If your not already confident then it's due to things that you have, as of yet, refused to break away from. What are these things? What are you allowing to hold you back from the new found self-image you crave?
Write these down on a sheet of paper, your going to need to know what you must get rid of in order to get rid of it.
Step 2 - Leverage More...
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