I wanted to write a quick article on a subject I get asked about all the time. How to go from getting the number, to getting a date.
Now the in thing to do is to call or text your new interest up and say something like this "Hey, Becky. I'm going out to a movie on Saturday, you should come along." Now this style has some pro's and some con's to look at. It's good that your coming from a mindset that you believe she's going to say yes, in sales this is called "assuming the sale". People tend to follow, this is especially true when they perceive the leader to be certain. The other part of this approach that is excellent is that your not blowing things out of proportion. There is no reason to make a big deal out of a date, especially early on. Keep the asking casual and keep the date casual... save the more serious stuff for when your more serious about eachother.
Now the couple cons of this style of question. If she is busy at the time when you want to see her then she is going to say no, the difficlut part about this is it's hard to know if she is actually busy or if she's blowing you off. This brings up the fundamental limitation of this style of asking, you are implying a yes/no answer to be made... either she can and wil go or she won't.
"Hey Becky, we need to hang out. I'm free Friday at 7, or Saturday at 9, your choice."
This way of asking her out is what I call the either/or question. You still get all the benefits of the assumtive, however you reduce the odds of her being busy by 50% and you also imply either/or as the answer to the question... naturally no is always a possible answer, but back to the concept about people prefering to follow others leads... you are implying that she will choose either/or, the good thing about this is either/or, they are both yes.
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